Why men see an escort
Most people mistakenly think that escorts only serve one purpose: sex. This is way too simple.
In most long term relationships an important aspect has gone missing. The ability to listen has been gradually replaced with talking. Many women no longer listen to their partner, but expect them to listen to their frustration about their daily problems. Many men would characterize this experience as nagging.
This is a rather sad development, which we have experienced ourselves and seen in our circle of friends. Maybe it explains why a man is reluctant to change his barber. One would think that a male haircut is a male haircut, but that is completely missing the point. A good barber knows when to speak, when to ask questions, and when to listen. Case in point: A man will not change from a good barber, unless he moves. A price increase here or there will not change that. The trip to the barber is a psychological ritual.
A good escort knows the value of listening. This talent turns one-time clients into repeat customers, all else being equal.
Why the sex is different
We know you did not expect the above answer, so let's answer what you really want to know.
Men love something new
Men love a new gadget, device or toy. Men are collectors. The same applies to women. Sex with another woman is a psychological form of ownership. A man may have the perfect wife at home, but he will still seek someone new. Those men that do not do this have weighed the risks of losing what they have.
The mother of their children
When a man is married to a woman, and she is the mother of his children, a psychological change takes place. He subconsciously develops respect for her role as mother, the one who ensures that his offspring survive and thrive. He no longer sees this woman as a sex object. In spite of the familiarity that comes with marriage, he cannot imagine crazy lewd sex acts with his the mother of his children, while he can imagine them with nearly anyone else. When he is fantasizing about someone giving his anus oral pleasure, he will think "Not the mother of my children".
Sex in marriage is non-existent
We all know that a marriage is about effort. Some make more effort. Others make less effort. Few consider that sex is an area where effort should be made as well. Even fewer really make the effort.
Modern women are of the opinion that marriage does not entitle a man to sex. "My body, my choice" comes to mind. Legally speaking, they are correct. Many consider sex an integral part of marriage. What should one do, if one partner has the desire, but the other partner does not? Divorce creates many problems and is usually very costly. Having an affair or spending time with an escort could be the easier or less costly solution.
It is interesting, that many partners do not want to have sex, but feel the marriage vows are violated when the other partners seeks sex elsewhere...
About the author
First and foremost, Andreas is a man. You know, one of those coming from Mars, not Venus. He also manages two escort agencies, so he has contact with many men that book an escort.
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